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There are different views on how to get rid of anger. Here are a few steps to help take off the edge.
Steps
- Scream into a pillow.
- Draw a picture of the person you are mad at and rip it into pieces.
- Dance, play or listen to music.
- Kick your soccer ball into a tree or shed. Pretend it's the person you are really mad at.
- Write in your diary, or try some reading.
- Throw something hard, like ice cubes, at a wall that cannot be damaged by them, like tiles in the shower or a brick wall outside
- Count to ten, then take deep breaths. You can repeat this, if you have to.
- Better yet, take deep breaths, and count them to ten. Then do it again.
- Consider the good points about the person who makes you mad.
- Breathe.
- Go do some kind of physical activity.
- Throw a fit (without anyone else around). Scream and stomp and throw yourself on the floor if you want. Bite a pillow, punch a pillow, throw it against the wall.
- Listen to some soothing music, or a favorite song.
- Talk to a friend.
- Leave a phone message saying what you think on your own answering machine, then delete it.
- Watch TV.
- Have a good cry.
- Sleep.
- Lie down.
- Talk to them calmly and tell them how you feel.
- Draw a funny picture about the person you're angry at!
- Write a story that uses the emotions you are experiencing.
- Get a punching bag and beat it whenever you feel you need to.
- Think of something completely different.
- Exercise and think about what you are mad at and why you are mad at it.
- Listen to "heavy" music so that you release all of your anger into that song, then listen to a soothing song to calm you back down.
- Think of some things that you did which were funny, like throwing yourself on the floor, watch a comedy show/film etc. Laughter gets rid of a lot of Anger!
- Take a nice hot shower/bath, its soothing
- Leave the room
- Don't think about the person you are angry with.
- Surround yourself in good mates,good books, good films and good music to make you feel better.
Tips
- Make sure that when you talk to them, your body language shows that you are calm enough to talk it out.
- Make sure that when you kick the soccer ball, you are outside and not near any breakables or plants (just so you don't get into any more trouble, which will stress you out some more).
- Beat something up i.e. pillow, punching bag, anything thats not living!
- Consider the reason you're angry, and try focusing that rage into doing something about it. Try fixing the source of your anger.
- For anger in general, try reading texts like the Tao Te Ching of Taoism or the Dharmapada of Buddhism. These include interesting and logical suggestions about the roots of anger and how to prevent it.
- Try looking into calming activities like Tai Chi, Yoga, or meditation.
Warnings
- Hitting or punching a tree can result in bodily injury.
- Try not to spaz out at all to avoid this mess.
- Try not to punch your bed or jump on a pillow.
- Catharsis (letting your anger out through shouting, hitting things) has been demonstrated in scientific research to be a poor means of coping with anger
- If you get mad all the time see a doctor.
- Don't drink or do anything stupid and self-abusive.
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Sources and Citations
- Wikipedia: Buddhism
- Transforming Anger!
- The Dhammapada: Wisdom of the Buddha - translated by Harischandra Kaviratna
- Wikipedia: Taoism
- The Tao Te Ching, by Lao-Tzu - translated by J.H. Mcdonald
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